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I’m a Muslim and a Christian guy wants to marry me, but there is a problem

I need a way out of this issue immediately because it’s very crucial. At the age of 26, I will shortly be completing my youth service. My economics department at Usman Danfodiyo University in Sokoto awarded me a First Class diploma. I was dating this charming man who I was dating when I was in school.

When we first started dating in my second year, we were only students with no idea what the future held, but despite this, I loved him and was ready to go through any uncertainty with him. I heard a rumor somewhere along the road that he was seeing another girl.

He came from an affluent family and was the only child. My family, on the other hand, was just content. Even though we had enough food and drink, we weren’t considered wealthy. I found out afterward that he intended to wed the girl. He was avoiding me the entire time. When we eventually got together, I naturally sought clarification on all the rumors I had heard.

He acknowledged that his family’s insistence made him see someone else. We ultimately split up, and to be honest—despite the fact that I am a Muslim—that experience ruined my opinion of Muslim men. I avoided Muslim guys even after I graduated because I was still highly traumatized by the events of my past relationship. My mother and most of my family knew, and they supported my healing. I was assigned to an Eastern state for my mandatory one-year youth service after finishing school.

I had the opportunity to meet other guys when I was posted to Anambra State. Another Muslim guy I met was pleasant, but he was also quite self-centered. He hailed from a wealthy family and wouldn’t stop boasting about how much wealth he had. No one could dispute his wealth, but he was always willing to make you feel less than him, even though some of the individuals who knew him claimed he didn’t do it on purpose.

He would not stop talking about his father and his many businesses. If that weren’t enough, he would also discuss his childhood travels to several nations. I couldn’t process the entire thing; it was too much.

I also got to know an Igbo man who was a Christian in the camp. We have a vibe together. He was attractive, kind, modest, and courteous. He was a kind man who was always open to listening to others. In the camp, we grew close, and we kept in touch after our two-week visit. Throughout the year-long primary assignment, we were assigned to various locales. We had a great relationship, and both guys kept phoning me. While the Igbo boy was posting in a nearby area, I was meeting up with my Muslim acquaintance in the same spot. I have been informed of their intentions by both of them, and I’m trying to figure out what to do about it.

Since my mother and I are so close, I have told her. I genuinely don’t want to marry the Muslim guy, but the other guy is all I could want in a man. I feel at ease with him, and I can’t help but fall in love. According to my mother, since we practice the same religion, it will be simpler for us to get along if I choose the Muslim guy. She constantly says that he is the most outstanding choice for me, even though I have tried numerous times to convince her that I don’t love him enough to marry him.

I am aware that she is acting in that way due to her religious beliefs and the fact that he came from an affluent family. She won’t give up, even though I don’t want her to decide for me. My dad is a devout Muslim, so I’m not sure how he will take it without her. My dad is really difficult, so I know he will refuse, and I’m not sure how I will manage that. I’m trying to figure out what to do. More than I love the Christian guy. How can I persuade my parent?

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Emmakings says:

April 22, 2024 at 7:48 am

I'll advice her to marry the Muslim guy.. Because if things don't go well, her family will stand by her..
But if she marries the christian guy, and things didn't go well, her family will deny her and let her suffer.
But one thing is that, the christian guy will not let her feel lonely because he's gonna cherish the sacrifice she has made for marrying him.