‘How my mother caused my childlessness’ – Nollywood Actress, Jayesimi opens up

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Dupe Jayesimi, a seasoned Yoruba Nollywood actress, has described the hardships of a failed marriage and childlessness.

In an interview with her coworker Abiola Adebayo for her “Talk-to-B” YouTube show, Jayesimi accused her mother of being the reason she didn’t have children.

When her need increased, the Ibadan-born actress said that her mother and family rejected her plans to adopt a child, stressing, “If you adopt any kid, I will feed them to death. It was then I knew that I was in for a long ride.”

Despite multiple attempts to conceive, Jayesimi claimed she was regrettable to be in this predicament.

She added that once her ex-husband brought a pregnant woman to their home, the problem of childlessness caused her marriage to fall apart.

The actress insisted that because of her past experiences with guys who would lie to have sex with her, she had stopped worrying too much about the matter and that she believed God would eventually make her to have a child.

She said,“I got married on October 22, 1988. I had started theatrical works then. In our marriage, we had no child for several years despite conceiving before the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony, I had a miscarriage, which was when our problems started. We had too many tests, with several attempts to conceive. My husband and I had a misunderstanding when he left me for months without checking back when we were already five years into our marriage. The problem lingered that he would begin to use a pillow to demarcate the bed.

“He began to make plans to make me leave the marriage. I had to pack out when I could no longer bear it. Two weeks after I left the house, another woman moved into the house, pregnant. I resorted to taking alcohol and sobbing for years. I had to move on when the problem was becoming unbearable. I summoned the courage to say that I wouldn’t get married again, but my parents rejected the plan, urging me to remarry.

“So I met one Alhaji who tried his best to make me conceive. I did IVF twice, and it didn’t even work. So one day, I conceived, without even knowing. At the point that I wanted to urinate when I came back from a location one night, I couldn’t, it was too hard, I had to call for a nurse who gave me pain relief and advised that I head for the hospital the following day. When I got to the hospital, the doctor said I was pregnant, but it was an ectopic pregnancy. I cried hell. Then I was already 40 years old. I was operated on and since then, I haven’t conceived. I had to leave the Alhaji because his wife began a war with him.

“There are several men who would lie that when you marry them, you will conceive. It is a lie. They want to sleep with you. Not that I don’t think about it, but I know God’s time is the best. I have taken a lot of steps to conceive. Those whom I trained their children mock me at the end of the day.

“This acting job is just a blessing in disguise. It has helped me sustain the watered ground of mockery. What I want to do now is get a child who will be my company. If I had not listened to my mum, I would have adopted a long time ago. I am not fighting with my mum, but I want her to stay clear of me because she’s the cause of my childlessness.”

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