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Why I can’t marry him after he sent me to university, bought car for my father

This specific narrative is highly objective because the disgruntled woman claims she was betrothed to her Suitor at a young age without her choice and that she never asked for his help.

Her education and experience now prevent her from marrying a 45-year-old illiterate. She wrote a lengthy note to Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah, a relationship specialist. This is the process:

Let me be as Frank and polite as possible. My name is Lucy, and I am from Edo State, Nigeria
There is this present Suitor of mine who is about 45 years old and wishes to marry me.

He sent me to school at age 15 when he was yet struggling; my parents earlier on betrothed me to him when I was six years and I assumed it was all a childish gesture. I grew up calling him my husband.

Jude, who is my Suitor, never wanted me to lack; he had to drop out of school for me to get back to school. He assisted my mum in the market and bought a taxi for my dad. We lived in a bit of comfort courtesy of his benevolence. Well, I never forced him all this while.

Now, take note that I am a virgin, so it’s not like we were making love. I have practically lived my life in his arms. He was committed to the relationship, while I was committed to making my parents happy. Recently, he bought a house for my dad and is currently building one for my mum.

I have since graduated and started working in a first-class international IT company. What I presently earn would double whatever my Suitor has seen in his life. Now, he has proposed, and I declined. This infuriated him, and he approached my dad with bitter complaints.

Now, the family has called a meeting, insisting I must marry him.
I can’t marry him because of my exposure and the fact that he is uneducated. How do I attend board meetings and dinners with an illiterate? How do I face my colleagues who would be laughing at me? I have offered him 200 million as compensation to be paid 50 million a year for four years, but he refused; my mother has threatened to disown me, and my dad has not eaten since.

My Suitor is worse. He seems to be on life support because he has been dumb since without speaking to anyone. Please, what wrong have I done? He can start again. I have the money to compensate him.
Thanks, Lucy.

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